You and i have habits. Its something just in us. For example, i like to watch play mahjong and if i never touch it for some days, i would feel something is lacking in life. This is habit i guess. So, every single person is addicted to specific emotions and has specific habits which control our character, who we are, daily behaviors and responses in situations.
Learn to change the bad habits in you. In this way, you can be a success. Don't be a victim of your lazy self.
At the same time, please do your best to focus your thoughts at right area, as right thoughts lead to right habit and wrong thoughts lead to wrong ones. Marie Callas says so. Every agrees that's the case.
Lastly two important areas which we need to take care of - words and actions. It does not require a genius to see that. Words you spouted carry your essence, personality and character and thoughts. You speak like a victim, you are a victim. You speak like a winner and you are winner yourself. Actions are the results of all of the above. Good thoughts lead to good words lead to good habit and lead to good actions.